(this is one of my fun moments from 2014 –  the launch of  Bolder and Wiser with many of the women who took part and special guest Sue Bourne, award winning documentary maker (Fabulous Fashionistas and many others) - what’s one of yours?)

I realised the other day that…

… my parting shot to any member of my family leaving the house is to say “Have fun”. This is even when it is patently inappropriate as they head to a majorly stressful meeting or an exam or the dentist. I can visualise the rolling eyes, and that’s assuming they’ve even registered my cheery turn of phrase. I admit a cheery tone to match is not guaranteed.

I don’t know when or why I started doing it. I was brought up in a vaguely protestant work ethic kind of way in 1960′s and 70′s Britain, and started my working life in the competitive Thatcher years. Fun wasn’t the first word that sprang to mind when priorities were being considered, though it did get a measured look-in on high days and holidays. Within reason. Too Much Fun was considered a bit dangerous, and unseemly, by the relatively cautious communities I lived in. And Fun should really only happen once Work was finished. That didn’t leave a lot of room in some weeks.

As a parent, I also am very well aware of what looks like the right amount of fun in my teenagers and start getting a bit sweaty palmed and shrill when it looks as if they might be taking my exhortations too seriously. If they don’t appear to be having enough fun, I also start to worry. It’s a fine line.

With the festive season approaching fast…

… I have been considering the concept of fun. For many of the people I listen to in a coaching capacity, it does seem as if fun is in short supply. Listening to the news or reading papers would also suggest the world has something of a fun deficit right now too. Sometimes coaching sessions focus on this very issue – how can life simply be more fun? A healthy shot of fun can be enormously energising, boost our optimism and resilience, help us see the world in a new light, help us be more creative, more caring towards others and be very welcome indeed. I find it’s fun to be in flow with quiet activities just as much as it can be fun to do something noisy and busy. I can enjoy an afternoon’s writing or reading and consider it fun just as much as events such as a recent ceilidh that was held to celebrate a friend’s wedding. We define our own fun. It might even include exams or the dentist. Each to their own.

So my Christmas parting shot to my readers and friends is HAVE FUN. I’ll be back in the New Year and perhaps fun could be in our resolutions for 2015 too. Who knows where it might take us?


(this is an old  video – but the sentiment still holds true – have a very happy Christmas, however you define it)